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First Toy review for us Fat Femmes

Hi! It’s MsK , your favorite Sex and Body Acceptance Coach from Deliciously Perverted.

Today I want to talk to you about one of my favorite things that I love to try……sex toys, especially with my husband. This particular toy is for external stimulation of the vulva and clit. You can also use this to stimulate the penile frenulum as well. This lovely toy is called Sapphire G and it is from Starship company,http://www.starship.com that is also sponsoring this review. They are a well-known Sex Health and Wellness company which is located in Georgia with 8 locations around the Atlanta area and one location in East Tennessee in East Ridge. They offer discreet packing, free shipping over $50.00, secure online ordering, and of course have high standards when it comes to your privacy. 

So let’s get to the nitty gritty about the Sapphire G. It is a Liquid Silicone Wand toy that comes in a black box. It is about the shape of my hand and it comes with a USB charger so you can make sure it is ready to go when you want to have a little self-pleasure on your own or with your lover. This can be used in and out of water which is a good thing in the shower when you have the house to yourself), 10 different speeds and also made of Silicone. The flat head of this wand is great for clitoral stimulation and for penile frenulum which is located in the front of the penis. 

With any other wands like this, I worried about whether a fat, femme like me would be able to hold it in a comfortable position for more than 5 minutes. I also worried that it may get me off sooner or take too long than I expected to get me off. This has been the case with a few toys in my past which upsets me because I wasted my money and time on something that is hard to maneuver with my hands, takes too long to quickly get me off and if it’s too clunky.  

Well the Sapphire G does not disappoint me at all. It is 6 inches long and takes up to 2 hours to charge. The Sapphire can hold its charge on a low setting 80 minutes on low speed or 50 minutes if you run it on the highest setting. It was easy to charge and I had lots of fun testing it out. I am going to be honest as someone who is going through Perimenopause, I have to be picky about sex toys in general, especially when I use them with water-based lube. So I decided to test this on my hubby first to see what his reaction would be and it be used on those with penises. From his reaction to the Sapphire G I would yes he really liked it. He described it as if a tongue was vibrations going up and down the front of his penis. He didn’t want me to stop using it on him. He especially loved it at higher speeds. We decided this would be a great toy for edging your partner. 

As for me I took things nice and slow while testing this baby out. I discovered it can be a little hard to maneuver at first if you were holding it with the flat part of it up against the vulva and it between my legs. So I turned the wand around and I was to access the button to turn it on and control the speed. This is a bonus if you have carpal tunnel or Arthritis like me.  With a silicone toy you think the grip would be slippery, but it wasn’t. Not even while using my favorite water-based lube on it. Also, with using it in the water, it is easier to use while taking a bath. However, if you are planning to try it in the shower, you may want to make sure you have something to lean on while using it. This will prevent you from slipping in the bathtub.

Overall, I really enjoy testing out The Sapphire G. It fits in the palm of my hand, can change the way you hold the wand to make it easier to use, feels nice, easy grip, great to use with my lube ( especially with water-based since you can not use it with any silicone lube), and you can use it on yourself as well with your penis. So I would definitely recommend this toy, especially for fat femmes out there. So I hope you can give it a try and have a little fun with you. And if you use my discount code, MSK2024, you can get a good discount off your purchase by going to http://www.starship.com. And as always stay safe, keep hydrated, live a delicious life and stay pervy

Why I don’t subscribed to Society’s norm about using the word, Fat and Femme

So People ask me why I use the words Fat and Femme…..well let me explain. I used those terms in a way to describe something and to take back Power! For Example the word, “Fat”. I used it as an adjective to DESCRIBE how I am shaped. The word fat in the past was used to hurt me and to make me feel like shit. Well, I decided to not let it get to me and take back my power who used the word to make me feel less of a human being. “Fat” used to be a trigger word for me and I know it still for folx who are still dealing with the bullshit that comes with words. However, through therapy and some research using mindful mind dumping, I learned that it’s just a word and not to let it have power over me!

And as far as the word, “femme”, I rejected the meaning that makes people feel like shit and what SOCIETY deems the true meaning of what makes a person femme. For me, “femme” means anyone who identifies as female. Whether you are born female, Trans, butch, stud, Or non-binary. And race has nothing to do with being femme either.

This is why I wanted to PROVIDE a space like this so people can learn new tools on how to take care of themselves, give themselves some grace, learn spicy stuff that people feel that “fat” people should not know about, and provide spaces to explore their sensuality. So my workshop on June 1st is one way of PROVIDING something for my community and beyond. Well, I hope this answers folx questions about me and my workshop. You can find out more about the workshop and purchase tickets through this [link]https://forbiddentickets.com/events/msk/f8eaf7ceff

When your self-care looks different from other’s self-care

  Self-care can look different for everyone. For some, it could be a mini-vacation or spa day. Others could be a walk in the park or reading a novel at your favorite spot.  For example,  my husband is cleaning the house and keeping it clean. He explained that this keeps his anxiety down and his mental self intact. I know this is a struggle for him since he has been taking on more as the provider in our household. This brings him peace and insight into what he needs to care for around the house and himself. It means taking my meds and getting the rest I need, especially on bad pain days. This past week with the change in weather and doing a lot of driving for my side gig, which doesn’t help. So on Saturday, I got up and felt like shit. I didn’t have a lot of energy and realized I should have slept in. When I mentioned this, A told me to go back to bed. I said I couldn’t because I had a lot of things to work on and around the house. His reply to what I said is something I haven’t heard from him; you can be lazy and still productive. If your body is tired, rest and my to-do list can wait. He also added that I can’t be productive either if I am tired and don’t take care of myself. So I took my ass back to bed and slept for another 4 to 5 hours. I woke up and found his text saying that lunch was in the fridge, and he was out with kiddo at the park. This reminds us that we need some self-care and make time for it, or else we can’t be there for our family and friends.

      Self-care is whatever makes you happy and comfortable. It is the energy you can put into taking care of yourself. It makes you feel recharged and able to do what you need to do. It can be as simple as paying bills or taking a long bath with your favorite bubble bath or bath bomb. Dancing in your living room to a song from your teens or a kid show your kids watch. (Don’t judge me; Yo Gabba Gabba was a bomb to watch when my daughter was younger.). It can be as simple as making a small breakfast so you will not feel bad later in the day. Each of these things can bring you joy and that you are taking care of yourself. If it does not have to be expensive, outlandish, or doesn’t satisfy your soul. You are more than that.

      So please take time for self-care and remind your loved ones to do the same. Again it doesn’t have to be what you see on TV or what you see your favorite artist or actor doing as a method of self-care. Self-care is all about you. So take care of yourself and then take care of the rest.

And a reminder that I hope you live a delicious life of love, new adventures and that I am proud of you!

P.S. I would love to hear what you do for yourself as a form of self-care or what you want to try. I can’t wait to see what you have to say!

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