Tag: Fat Joy

First Toy review for us Fat Femmes

Hi! It’s MsK , your favorite Sex and Body Acceptance Coach from Deliciously Perverted.

Today I want to talk to you about one of my favorite things that I love to try……sex toys, especially with my husband. This particular toy is for external stimulation of the vulva and clit. You can also use this to stimulate the penile frenulum as well. This lovely toy is called Sapphire G and it is from Starship company,http://www.starship.com that is also sponsoring this review. They are a well-known Sex Health and Wellness company which is located in Georgia with 8 locations around the Atlanta area and one location in East Tennessee in East Ridge. They offer discreet packing, free shipping over $50.00, secure online ordering, and of course have high standards when it comes to your privacy. 

So let’s get to the nitty gritty about the Sapphire G. It is a Liquid Silicone Wand toy that comes in a black box. It is about the shape of my hand and it comes with a USB charger so you can make sure it is ready to go when you want to have a little self-pleasure on your own or with your lover. This can be used in and out of water which is a good thing in the shower when you have the house to yourself), 10 different speeds and also made of Silicone. The flat head of this wand is great for clitoral stimulation and for penile frenulum which is located in the front of the penis. 

With any other wands like this, I worried about whether a fat, femme like me would be able to hold it in a comfortable position for more than 5 minutes. I also worried that it may get me off sooner or take too long than I expected to get me off. This has been the case with a few toys in my past which upsets me because I wasted my money and time on something that is hard to maneuver with my hands, takes too long to quickly get me off and if it’s too clunky.  

Well the Sapphire G does not disappoint me at all. It is 6 inches long and takes up to 2 hours to charge. The Sapphire can hold its charge on a low setting 80 minutes on low speed or 50 minutes if you run it on the highest setting. It was easy to charge and I had lots of fun testing it out. I am going to be honest as someone who is going through Perimenopause, I have to be picky about sex toys in general, especially when I use them with water-based lube. So I decided to test this on my hubby first to see what his reaction would be and it be used on those with penises. From his reaction to the Sapphire G I would yes he really liked it. He described it as if a tongue was vibrations going up and down the front of his penis. He didn’t want me to stop using it on him. He especially loved it at higher speeds. We decided this would be a great toy for edging your partner. 

As for me I took things nice and slow while testing this baby out. I discovered it can be a little hard to maneuver at first if you were holding it with the flat part of it up against the vulva and it between my legs. So I turned the wand around and I was to access the button to turn it on and control the speed. This is a bonus if you have carpal tunnel or Arthritis like me.  With a silicone toy you think the grip would be slippery, but it wasn’t. Not even while using my favorite water-based lube on it. Also, with using it in the water, it is easier to use while taking a bath. However, if you are planning to try it in the shower, you may want to make sure you have something to lean on while using it. This will prevent you from slipping in the bathtub.

Overall, I really enjoy testing out The Sapphire G. It fits in the palm of my hand, can change the way you hold the wand to make it easier to use, feels nice, easy grip, great to use with my lube ( especially with water-based since you can not use it with any silicone lube), and you can use it on yourself as well with your penis. So I would definitely recommend this toy, especially for fat femmes out there. So I hope you can give it a try and have a little fun with you. And if you use my discount code, MSK2024, you can get a good discount off your purchase by going to http://www.starship.com. And as always stay safe, keep hydrated, live a delicious life and stay pervy

How Fat Liberation is tied to Fat Pleasure

You may asked why I am talking about Fat Liberation and Pleasure. It seems that two do not go together and are taboo at best. I say the two are intertwined and you can not have Liberation without Pleasure. Here are some questions and answers on the topic below to give you some insight on my argument.

Why is Pleasure so important to Fat Liberation

When you think of Fat Liberation, many referred to Fat Liberation Manifesto Written by Judy FreeSpirit back in 1973. This was very important at this time and the focus of Fat Liberation which was happening at the same time as the Sexual Revolution. Unfortunately neither movement mentions that a Fat Person deserves pleasure as any other person who isn’t fat.

So Why didn’t the Sex and Fat movement acknowledged that Fat Folx Deserve Sex Pleasure

As Sydelle Barreto mentioned in her 2023 Thesis titled,” Fat and Forgotten: The Exclusion of Fat Women in Sexual Liberation and the Implications for Sexual Public Health states in the Abstract Thesis, “that sexual liberation movement hasn’t fully grappled with the impact of fatphobia. At the same time, the fat liberation movement, which albeit occasionally has addressed issues of fetishization, has not fully come to terms with the sexual liberation as a necessary “frontier” of freedom within the fat liberation movement. “

So why bring this up now?!?

I bring this up because I had and witnessed my pleasure and the right to pleasure dismissed by doctors, therapists, Fellow Fat Folx, the media and General public. This means that they do not have access to Proper Sex education, to Pleasure Products, and being a sensual and Sexual being in itself. This has also happened to other Fat Folx, especially Fat Femmes who have had it questioned by others to why they are seeking pleasure.

So how do we begin to tackle this issue and why it is so important to connect Fat Liberation to Pleasure

There are many ways to teach and incorporate Pleasure into our Fat Liberation. First we need to acknowledge that We as Fat folx are sexual and sensual beings. That being said, we must also acknowledge that may be some trauma that needs to be address and that it will take time to heal from SA that Fat Folx may have encountered. Those who are sex educators, coaches, workers and therapists need to look at our own fatphobia and bias against Fat Folx and how it has prevented Fat Folx from seeking their help on unlearning negative views on sex, pleasure and that they have a right to these resources.

And that is the tip of the iceberg. Things like proper sex education, making accommodations for Fat Folx to attend events, TEACHING Body neutrality, Supporting Folx who do the work like me and supporting a Fat Folx in your life who wants to include Pleasure in the PURSUIT of Fat Liberation.

I do not know everything, but I hope I gave you something to marinate on, see if you can look for other fat Liberators who believe that we too deserve pleasure, and change any misconceptions when it comes to their own Bias toward Fat Folx and FatPhobia.

I hope this has HELPED you understand us Fat Folx and the work I do. If you would like to continue to support my work you can do the following:

1.) Like and share this post

2.) Set up a 20-MINUTE Discovery call to see if we mesh and how I can help you.

3.) Attend my workshop, “Honoring the FAT-LOVING SENSUAL BODY and Treating it like a Temple”. This will be offered on July 20th. Information and ticket information is located in this link: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/msk/2024-07-20-honoring-the-fat-loving-sensual-body-and-treating-it-like-a-temple

I will also be teaching this at Sex Down South in September. You can use the discount code, “MSK24” for $65 off your conference fee when you go to http://www.sexdownsouth.com

4.) Or you can do a love offering to MY Venmo account, Diva Princple, as a gift to continue my work.

And remember to stay safe, hydrate, live a deliciously life, and stay Pervy!

Love,

MsK

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